Thursday, November 29, 2012

Basic is the new "B" word


Around a year and a half ago a woman became strangely obsessed with me, to the point of stalking me, and by that I mean she was sending me scary email after scary email. Some days five or more emails, every one getting more and more disturbing. Eventually she sent an email threatening my children. That was it and I decided that I didn't really want to blog and stopped for a while and then I tried only blogging once in a blue moon and was always nervous I was going to wake up a sleeping dragon. It was an unpleasant experience and I do still watch over my shoulder for the dragon.  After that experience when I did blog I wasn't myself and was restricting what I wrote and posted. I didn't enjoy that type of blogging and it became almost a chore. I have all those email saved to this day, I save all emails from bloggers, school and business transactions...I guess you can add stalker to the list of saved emails. After that ordeal I realized how I was letting someone else determine what I wrote, thought, and ruin what I loved. That was the day I wrote the post titled S%&T Storm and decided that I would write anything I wanted and readers could stay or go, but I was going to post what I wanted, write the way I felt  and enjoy MY blog again. I did just that and I have loved it since. That experience taught me that I will never make everyone happy but it also taught me that I will NEVER let someone else determine what I write or don't write.



 I mention all of this because after my post yesterday on my Christmas decorating/giveaway I received an email from a very angry blogger (who is also some what of a local gal). I'll call her Chic Mommy (not her name, not her blog name, )anyway, Chic Mommy sends me an email blasting me and accusing me of referencing her and her blog (remember she is talking about my Christmas decorating post from yesterday). I DO NOT understand her rant or accusations. I wrote about my Christmas decorations, my style and my friends and family styles, my love for all types of Christmas decorating...all I can say is WHAT NERVE!  I am a big personality and have openly admitted that I'm a lot to take in, but I think Chic Mommy now has that market cornered because even I wouldn't have the nerve to accuse another blogger of that.

Apparently the new "B" word is BASIC, who knew? I didn't get that memo but I have now! Part of her email was..."then make references on your blog to my work and "basic" style. I don't care if you don't mention my name and you can deny you refer to me but I get the odd feeling you do refer to me and I am tired of it. please stop...you don't understand or get what I do or who I am...that is fine...just don't look at my blog or instagram and I will do the same."


I had no idea one person could be so full of there self, Chic Mommy and I are not close, are not friends, she doesn't even know The Judge's real name! But yet she thinks she can place judgement like she did after my post on Christmas decorating. I have tried to be beyond friendly to Chic Mommy, I have invited her to many, many things and she has replied no to every single offer, I have answered all email from Chic Mommy and tried to be a friend ( I have asker her questions I would and have asked any of my friends). After receiving her email I called her twice and she would not answer I did reply to her email and even gave her an "out." I stated in my reply to Chic Mommy that I hope her email was a reaction to her having a bad day and that she really wasn't a mean spirited person. I got no response. Okay, then maybe she wasn't having a bad day and maybe Chic Mommy isn't a nice woman...I give up and should have a LONG time ago.  She ended her email saying she would not look at my blog again...well thank you, that's a gift right there, but I doubt it's a true statement. 10200750265

I will not be told what I can or can not blog about ever again and for someone to send me an email based on an "odd feeling" to Chic Mommy I say I make a better friend than an enemy.











21 comments:

  1. Avoid, avoid, avoid!!! She sounds like she's having a panic attack or melt down, how she got that out of your Christmas decorations post is unstable! Be careful Tikaa, you are way to sweet for all that negativity.

    Keep your head high and heels higher,
    Kim

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  2. Please continue to blog! I so enjoy reading each new post and am always excited anytime I see an email from Green Acres Brenham. Looking forward to more about how you decorated your beautiful home for Christmas--you are one of a kind and that is what makes your blog so fun to read.

    Merry Christmas!

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  3. Sounds like she has a confidence issue or a jealouly one. Can't wait to see more Christmas and hopefully Chic Mommy's head won't explode or rather expand.

    Pam T.

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  4. Chic Mommy, bless her heart. Hey don't forget TB at Target tomorrow!

    Tracy

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  5. What's wrong with cray cray people??!!! These women need to get a life and quit bothering you!!! Can u blog the crazies??????

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  6. Did Chic Mommy trademark the work "basic"? Maybe she needs the snickers bar.

    Can't wait to see more holiday decorating, careful with the "B" word.

    Have a great weekend,
    Melissa

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  7. You don't take rejection well do you? She doesn't want to be your friend, she doesn't want to hang with you, and her business is successful. A normal person would've understood when she told you the third time that she didn't want to do stuff with you that she didn't want to be your friend and frankly doesn't need you as a friend. Get over yourself. Be careful picking your enemies. Publish this one... I doubt it will make it on the blog. Bless your heart.

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  8. She sounds like a "wanna be"..ignore her and keep being the Tikaa we all love!

    Patty

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  9. Oh my goodness Tikaa, that craziness is just tacky, isn't it?! Please don't think when I say I want to be your next door neighbor and BFF that I'm a stalker! LOL Seriously, I'm not a stalker but I love your style so much, it's difficult to keep my excitement to myself.

    Now, I'm off to read {stalk} your post about your Christmas decorations. I know the decos are fabulous!

    Miss Janice

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  10. I wonder why your negative commenter hides behind being anonymous? Oh well, it sounds like you were friendly and tried to get to know this other person. Clearly, she has personal issues.

    I enjoy your blog and love your Christmas decorations.

    --Becky in Boston

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  11. Thanks everyone for the sweet comments. Life is full of all kinds of people, both over the top (like me) and basic (like most lovely people I know). I only wish Chic Mommy the best, I honestly do think she's having a tough time or bad week. Hopefully the weekend will bring her rest, relaxation and a clear head. Town is to small to sling mud. Thanks again for all the sweet comments and to anonymous I would say, everyone is entitled to their opinion and as a blogger (like any blogger) I open myself up to the good and bad the day I published my first post. I have thick skin and can take it and completely respect all opinions.

    Have a Great Weekend everyone,
    Tikaa

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  12. I am commenting anonymously because this rant seems as if it was written by an unstable, mean girl. You should get yourself offline and find help

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  13. Ha, I found the "anonymous" comment HI-larious! Looks like you called her bluff, Tikaa! *wink*

    Love your blog and your style! Don't stop being YOU!

    Have a blessed weekend!

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  14. As we all prepare for Christmas in our own way, may I suggest that you take a long look in the mirror. Does your collection of Radco ornaments and Luis Vuitton purses make you a good person? What have you done to help others this Christmas? ( besides bragging about your material possessions and spewing venom towards others) None of us are perfect. You should realize that money, gold decorations, and purses will not make you happy. Don't resent those who are happy even though they live more modest lives.

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  15. Tikaa, you are a wonderful, kind, generous person that loves life! What's wrong with that? You are fun to be around, have great ideas,and take time to add the little details to everyday life....it helps an ordinary day to be made more special. Sounds like the unkindly words thrown your way were made from people that need to take a look at themselves. What is making them feel this way? It's not you. It is something deeper inside themselves...jealousy, lack of self confidence, pride...Theirs was a reaction rather than a response. You were sharing a post about you and your home. Nothing was written in a mean spirited or showy way. Personally, I love your style and am thrilled that you so freely share with all of us. You give us great ideas and are always so incredibly generous to share. As I knew you would, you've responded with grace and great character....big, big hugs my friend!!!

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  16. Let me just say, that I believe "Anonymous (with the vitriol comments) needs to get a life and also needs a good dictionary. Apparently they must not know what a Radko ornament is because they cannot spell the word correctly.

    Tikaa, just keep on being yourself and ignore all the crazies out there.

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  17. Tikaa is generous in many ways, and not just with money. She never hesitates to volunteer at school and in her community. She helps others all year long, not just at Christmas. She isn't shouting it from the rootops, but often works behind the scenes. It's not a sin to like pretty things, and Tikaa knows that those things don't make her happy.

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  18. Sounds like she needs a swift kick in the arse and a reality check. You clearly are much better than she is, and she's just jealous. What a Troll!

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  19. well Tikaa, sounds like Chic Mommy is just JEALOUS!! JEALOUS!! JELOUS!! CLearly she needs to find something better to do with her time.... For as long as I have known you - you have always been your own person who does her own thing and a person who can fight her own battles in life... Keep doing and writing about what makes you happy NO MATTER WHAT IT IS! Love ya...

    @ Anonymous/chic mommy - go take some antidepressants, buy a case of coke and a package of snicker bars and have a nice day! oh and maybe a walk on the treadmill I heard its a great stress reliever...

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  20. Great post! You tell them :) I agree, you should NEVER let anyone determine what you write! And Chic Mommy sounds like she's a little jealous of your decorating ;)

    booksbeautyandbars.blogspot.com

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  21. Tikaa, I'm very proud of you and the person that you are. I'm with you, best of luck to others and you continue to be you! Love you!

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